2016/03/08

Stop Quarreling!

Since there were a lot of leftover rice, I made fried rice for dinner yesterday.

I cut cabbage, carrot, green pepper, onion, pork, shimeji(mushroom), and sausages, then stir-fried them with a little salt and pepper.

Then I stir-fried rice and egg with chicken stock powder, add the meat and vegetables, mixed them, and stir-fried them again.

While having dinner, my 7-year-old son told me:

"Today's fried rice is something different from the usual. I think it is harder."

I thought he was right because I used the leftover rice and I knew he didn't like it.

He stopped eating it and lay on the sofa.

But I told him:

"But I made it as always do. I don't think this fried rice is harder than usual, and the taste is not different, right? I know you don't like hard food, but this is the cause of your weak chewing power as you were told by the dentist. I want you to eat it even if it is a little hard for you."

My 5-year-old daughter who was listening to me told him:

"Your chewing power will be weak if you don't eat it!"

He got mad at her on hearing her words and said:

"What did you say? Huh? Don't make fun of me! That's why I dislike you! Hey, are you listening to me?"

She ignored him completely and told me:

"Mom, I love you!"

He was enraged to hear that and told me:

"Mom! She isn't listening to me! I dislike her!"

She still kept smiling to me.

He was speaking ill of her for a while.

I thought it was about time to stop their quarrel.

First, I asked him:

"Hey! Wait a mintue. Why are you so getting angry with her? I really don't understand why. Tell me why."

He answered:

"Because she didn't listen to my story. She always makes fun of me!"

"What did she say? Why do you think she makes fun of you?"

"She told me that my chewing power is weak. I don't want her to talk about it! She always makes fun of me. For example, she has never put toys away, I always put them away alone. But she always behaves as if she put all of them away!"

They had taken an exam checking their chewing power at the event booth of a dentist at the summer festival, and she was stronger than him.

Maybe he remembered about it.

And I know my son doesn't like that she is skilled at shirking her responsibilities and getting him to do them.

I told my daughter:

"Why is your brother getting angry with you? He was shouting at you but you wouldn't listen to him. And he didn't want you to say about his chewing power. It was an unnecessary for him to say waht he did. You know he is always a good brother, he always helps you.  Listen to what he is saying. He is serious. Do you understand his feeling?"

I know why she ignored him.

She just followed my advice which I told her before.

Because my son often speaks ill of her when he is in bad mood, and she always cries on hearing what he said.

I told her:

"It's not your fault. He is only feeling under the weather, so he doesn't dislike you. You don't have to listen to what he says when he is in bad mood. You need to be patient."

Actually, she is more patient than him.

"Yeah, I am sorry."

She apologized to him, but he was still mad at her.

I also told my son:

"And do you understand why your sister didn't listen to you?  Because she didn't want to quarrel with you. She only wants to get along with you. She loves you. That's why she didn't want to listen to your complaint. I understand your feelings, but you get angry too much. What I said is true. You need to eat your dinner if you feel it is a liitle harder than usual. "

His mood semed to change on hearing,  they started playing together after dinner.

I understand their feelings well, so I sometimes have to become the translator of their feelings.

It is a slightly hard task, but I think it is one of the important parts of parents' duty.


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  1. Hello Kumi-san,

    Your children certainly keep you busy. And you seem to have learned how to be an expert diplomat which is a skill your daughter seems to have learned very well.

    Here are a list of issues found with the post:

    Part 1:

    This line:
    Since there were a lot of remaining rice, I made fried rice for dinner yesterday.

    Should be:
    Since there was a lot of leftover rice, I made fried rice for dinner yesterday.

    This line:
    Then I stir-fried rice and egg with chicken stock powder, add the vegetable and meat, mixed them, and stir-fried them again.

    Should be:
    Then I stir-fried rice and egg with chicken stock powder, add the meat and vegetables, mixed them, and stir-fried them again.

    This line:
    "Today's fried rice is something different from usual. I think it is harder."

    Should be:
    "Today's fried rice is something different from the usual. I think it is harder."

    This line:
    I thought he was right because I used the remaining rice and I knew he didn't like it.

    Should be:
    I thought he was right because I used the leftover rice and I knew he didn't like it.

    This line:
    "But I made it as always. I don't think this fried rice is harder than usual, and the taste is not different, right? I know you don't like hard food, but this is the cause you were told by the dentist that your chewing power is weak. I want you to eat it if it is a little hard for you."

    Should be:
    "But I made it as I always do. I don't think this fried rice is harder than usual, and the taste is not different, right? I know you don't like hard food, but this is the cause of your weak chewing power as you were told by the dentist. I want you to eat it even if it is a little hard for you."

    This line:
    He got mad at her to hear her word and said:

    Should be:
    He got mad at her on hearing her words and said:

    This line:
    He was enranged to hear that and told me:

    Should be:
    He was enraged to hear that and told me:

    This line:
    "Hey! Wait a mintue. Why are you so getting angry with her? I really don't understand why. Tell me why."

    Should be:
    "Hey! Wait a minute. Why are you so getting angry with her? I really don't understand why. Tell me why."

    This line:
    "She told me that my chewing power is weak. I don't want her to say about it! She always makes fun of me. For example, she has never put toys away, I always put them away alone. But she always behave as if she put all of them away!"

    Should be:
    "She told me that my chewing power is weak. I don't want her to talk about it! She always makes fun of me. For example, she has never put toys away, I always put them away alone. But she always behaves as if she put all of them away!"

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  2. Part 2:

    This line:
    They had taken a exam checking a chewing power at the event booth of a dentist in the summer festival, and she was stronger than him.

    Should be:
    They had taken an exam checking their chewing power at the event booth of a dentist at the summer festival, and she was stronger than him.

    This line:
    And I know my son doesn't like her who is like a cherry picker.

    Question: Does who is like a cherry picker mean that your daughter is selective in the facts she can recall? Or that she can remember and recall specific facts easily and use them effectively in things such as arguments?

    If so it could be written as:
    And I know my son doesn't like her as she can be very (good/selective) at remembering and recalling facts.

    This line:
    "Why is your brother getting angry with you? He was telling you seriously but you wouldn't listen to him. And he didn't want you to say about his chewing power. It was an unnecessary word. You know he is always a good brother, he always helps you. Listen to what he is saying. He is serious. Do you understand his feeling?"

    Should be:
    "Why is your brother getting angry with you? He was shouting at you but you wouldn't listen to him. And he didn't want you to talk about his chewing power. It was an unnecessary for him to say what he did. You know he is always a good brother, he always helps you. Listen to what he is saying. He is serious. Do you understand his feelings?"

    This line:
    Because my son often speaks ill of her when he is in bad mood, and she always crys to hear what he said.

    Should be:
    Because my son often speaks ill of her when he is in bad mood, and she always cries on hearing what he said.

    This line:
    She apologized him, but he was still mad at her.

    Should be:
    She apologized to him, but he was still mad at her.

    This line:
    "And do you understand why didn't your sister listen to you? Because she didn't want to quarrel with you. She only wants to get along with you. She loves you. That's why she didn't want to listen to your complaint. I understand your feeling, but you got angry too much. What I said is true. You need to eat your dinner if you feel it is a liitle harder than usual. "

    Should be:
    "And do you understand why your sister didn't listen to you? Because she didn't want to quarrel with you. She only wants to get along with you. She loves you. That's why she didn't want to listen to your complaint. I understand your feelings, but you get angry too much. What I said is true. You need to eat your dinner if you feel it is a little harder than usual. "

    This line:
    He seemed to change his feeling to hear that, they started playing together after dinner.

    Should be:
    His mood seemed to change on hearing that. They started playing together after dinner.

    This line:
    I understand their feeling well, so I sometimes have to become the translator of their feelings.

    Should be:
    I understand their feelings well, so I sometimes have to become the translator of their feelings.

    This line:
    It is a little hard task, but I think it is one of the best parts of parents' duty.

    Should be:
    It is a slightly hard task, but I think it is one of the important parts of a parents' duty.

    Reason: I changed best to important because, it is something a parent needs to do but it would be better if you didn't need to. Best implies that it is something you see as enjoyable and actively enjoy dealing with. Important implies that it is something that needs to be done but that it is not something that is enjoyable, but however it has to be done.

    If it genuinely is something you enjoy doing then ignore the previous line.

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    1. Hello Terry!
      Thank you for a lot of correction again.
      It is difficult for me to reduce my errors, but I try to do my best.

      Question: Does who is like a cherry picker mean that your daughter is selective in the facts she can recall? Or that she can remember and recall specific facts easily and use them effectively in things such as arguments?


      It was really difficult to write the sentence in English.
      I searched it on the internet and found the expression "Cherry picker".
      But it might not be suitable for what I wanted to say.
      I wanted to say that my son doesn't like a part of my daughter's character.
      It was that she is street stress, in other words, she can get over the trouble without she doesn't do it by herself.
      She often doesn't do what she should do by herself, and she often lets somebody, for example my son, do her tasks.
      In Japanese, we call such kind of person "要領のいい".
      I searched it on the internet, but I couldn't find the suitable translation.
      I changed the sentence "street stress", in Japanese, "世渡り上手".
      I think it is a slight different from what I wanted to say, but I was not able to find another better expression.
      If you have an anoghter better expression, please let me know!




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    2. Hello Kumi-san,

      I had a look on English sites for the various definitions of the Kanji you mentioned and I came up with:

      要領 = knack; trick; the ropes

      世渡り - making a living; getting on in the world; subsistence

      上手 - skill; skillful; dexterity

      Looking at the English words they all seem to be somewhat related in meaning something similar to "(skilled/adept) at"

      So your original sentence:
      And I know my son doesn't like her who is like a cherry picker.

      Could be:
      And I know my son doesn't like that she is (skilled/adept) at shirking her responsibilities and getting him to do them.

      Shirk generally means ways of avoiding doing things. For example to say avoid doing their (responsibilities/duty) you could say:

      He shirked his responsibilities.

      Note: The English dictionary I used often has English definitions of Kanji which no Japanese person would ever agree with so if you know that they are not correct then please ignore them.

      Hope this was useful.

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    3. Thank you for your cooporation again, Terry.
      I think your sentence is much clearer and suitable for what I want to express.
      Thank you again!

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